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[teaonthestairs]

I had a whole entry about leaving fandom - not me! I've got my lifetime membership and I'm never letting it go - but about how I didn't understand how people can just leave - I'm not talking those of us who just grow up and away from it, who have rl issues and need a break or whatever, but rather those who get in a fight or get offended and just go, delete their journal, blog, fanfiction - how can they let go? Do they regret it? I would be having serious separation issues - fanfication cravings, feeling faint from lack of pretty, going out of my mind having to keep ALL the fangirling inside - because, for me, fandom isn't about me making things (okay, sometimes I might get a little crazy and make icons) - because I'm a taker not a giver, but it's ALL about the talking - about sharing links and squee!ing over pretty and reading fanfic and leaving adjective filled notes and gushing about episodes and nodding seriously over episode reviews and shrieking with laughter of the sheer awesomeness of my more giving friends.

Fandom is so entwined in my life  I can't separate the two - I'm a fangirl, it's what I am, it's what I do. My emails, my phone conversations, my instant messaging, my messages, my computer time, dinner conversation, rl conversation - it's all ties in together, I nreathe my fandoms, my friends are fangirls - my FAMILY are fangirls/boys. 

So HOW do you just leave fandom?

I had a whole thing about comparing leaving fandom to leaving high school (because I am THAT original) and the differences between Leaving fandom (deleting journal, unsubscribing to newsletters and fannish alerts, clearing out your bookmarks and reorganizing your hard drive) and leaving fandom (basically - you're a lurker) 

It was awesome....   

...but it got all beleated so gah! stupid lj. 

Comments

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[emily-shore.livejournal.com]

I think fandom is like the Hotel California... you can check out any time you like, but you can never leave.

Re: here via Metafandom

[rosiew.livejournal.com]

Hee! So with the yes. You realise I've had the song stuck in my head for hours because of you right?

Re: here via Metafandom

[(Anonymous)]

Noooo!!! A fate worse than death!

:)

[viciouswishes.livejournal.com]

When people do a fandom flounce, they tend to be back. They might come to with a different name, but they don't really leave.

[rosiew.livejournal.com]

And hopefully with a lot less dramatics second time around. I think I would come crawling back, not that I could see myself flouncing - I'm more of a 'fall from grace' kind of girl.

[gothatheartholo.livejournal.com]

Random lurker here who found this entry through metafandom,

I tried leaving a lot of times-- for almost a year, and I couldn't seem to leave, because I'm addicted to fandom...

So I wouldn't mind knowing how does one leave said fandom.

-Holo

[rosiew.livejournal.com]

I sometimes get bored of fandom - well online fandom, which makes me back off - though I never last longer then a week. Disscussion above leaves me to assume you never really do, unless your not very in in the first place!

[doro-chan.livejournal.com]

it's all ties in together, I nreathe my fandoms, my friends are fangirls - my FAMILY are fangirls/boys.

It's the same for me. Well, besides the family thing. My brother grew out of it (I'm still wondering how he did it) and my mum only fangirls Jesus. But apart from that, every person I know more than casually is definitely a fangirl/boy. Half of them are even obsessed with fanfic and slash.

So I guess that when you do leave fandom, it's a rather sudden decision, because it just annoys you to no end (I am feeling like that at the moment but I just cover my ears and close my eyes until it's over) and you want to cut that part out of your life. I have no idea if it really works, though.

[rosiew.livejournal.com]

I think, if your a really into fandom - you won't really ever leave, you might distance yourself or stay out of the area taht pissed you off - or just lurk, because really - how CAN one control the cravings?